Monday, December 11, 2006

Shirley@Narita

After 17 hours, i am at Tokyo now. (local time 16.48)

The flight from Chicago to Tokyo was okay. The gentleman next to me was a 68 year old man who has 6 kids. (what a coincidence!) His youngest son (aged 24) is a PhD student at Johns Hopkin (another coincidence!)...

Perhaps i am happy in general, everything is so pleasant... I love Japan!

But flying AA is so different from flying CX. This is my first time flying AA across Pacific. The plane seems to be more spacious than those with CX.

As expected, AA service is not as good as CX. One of the cabin crew member (a lady) even did not tie up her long fuzzy hair. That's was a dissonance for me. She was making an annoyed face after her cart "hit" one of the passenger.

There were 10 video channels. You may not believe but none of them interested me. I ended up watching commercial+short excerpts of CBS programs including sit coms and David Letterman show for an hour. That's already the best for me. For the rest 13 hours, i was listening to some soft music (repeat every one hour or so) and watching the flight map that told me where i was.

The food. I don't want to sound picky and harsh. So i am not saying much here. My only comment is: not even close to dorm food.

Nonetheless, my general good mood + $200 price different + busy working on term paper make the whole trip nice and kinda pleasant. Looking forward to my CX flight to Hong Kong. I am expecting this will make it all up.

Sunday, December 10, 2006

@ UIUC Airport

I am at our Unversity airport and using UIUC account to get online! I will be departing soon. Everybody enjoy the break!!

:)

Wednesday, December 06, 2006

How to do presentation?

I have had two presentations so far this semester. I feel pretty incapacable doing it. The two things I noticed are: (1) it seemed i stopped really thinking when i present. I ended up talking about fragmented points (even fragmented sentenses) instead of elobrating on arguments. I noticed it very strongly when i contrast my behavior in class. I am totally okay when i listen and talk in class. It is not so much a problem for me to articulate my points of view in class/research discussion. But once i am in a "presentation", my thoughts become scattered and not fluent even on things that i have been thinking for some time.

In fact, in the only 2-3 "good" presentations i have ever done, i had almost a script written up/in mind. I admire so much that people can explain concepts and articulate argument clearly. How can they do it? Perhaps i should start asking my course instructors. Most of them are really good. There must be some ways i can learn doing it.

(2) the prepared slides did not do much help. I in fact think they were hindering. I feel that i was following a chain of thoughts when i prepare the slides, but i could/did not follow it when i present. Maybe i will explain better without the slides and completely from my own memory?

The most important presentation is coming up this Friday. I will present my summer research paper to the faculties and fellow grad students in Marketing. Really want to present it well so that i can pick on their brains to improve. Think about 15+ intelligent brains!

If you shared similar problems and find good ways out. Please let me know! If you are facing similar problems, please let me know too! So i know it is not only me and perhaps we can share resources for improvement. :)

Monday, December 04, 2006

Jessie's Graduation

My sister, Jessie, finished her 4 years of hard work and became a bright teacher! I'm so glad to see her growth and her love for educating the young. Way to go!















(click on the picture to see her xanga on her grad day)

一年了

去年今日凌晨4時,我知道我沒有機會再見一直非常疼我的外婆。













最後的日子,她記憶力開始很差,經常忘記剛見過什麼吃過什麼。但我知道她過得不錯,妹妹們還帶她去了一趟廸士尼。最後一次通電話時,她還問什麼時候畢業回去。有時我會想,她臨走的時候會否想起有一個外孫在遠方。我希望她只記得我嬰孩時的怪脾性和她教養了一個令她欣慰的“大家姐”。

從電腦的相片檔案中找到這一幅,是最後的一幅。提醒我要珍惜家人和朋友。

很感謝在Champaign的朋友在我最難過的時候給我的支持和照顧。

Wednesday, November 22, 2006

I love you all!

It was a lot of fun having you guys in my place for a party. Although the food was not very good but the wine was!

Koman and I made apricot-glazed ham, served with bow pasta, scalloped potatoes, and mixed veges. It is always fun to cook with Koman. One thing about the scalloped potatoes: it boiled and overflowed... The milk and cheese got burnt in my oven. The smoke alarm was on. And later on a fire vehicle and an ambulance came into this apartment complex. Still not sure if it was not me...

Of course, we love dessert. We had jam/chocolate-filled puff pastry and 湯圓 (anyone knows its English name?). The lemon meringue pie was not successfully at all. I will practise more when i have time... I will make it!!!

Not to say the crazy 懷舊金曲夜. I enjoyed tremendously with each of you. Thank you for being there! You definitely made this desparately grad student apartment less desparate.

Thanksgiving: Thank each of you for being there whenever I am happy or sad. Thank God for the friendship we share!

Saturday, November 11, 2006

向所有教師致敬

An excellent RTHK program about teachers' pressure and depression --

重播「亞太廣播聯盟」得獎作品:《抑鬱教師》

今年初接二連三有教師自殺,引起各界關注教師壓力問題,教協發起大遊行,政府亦成立委員會研究教師工作量。
晨早新聞天地記者朱錫君及鍾慧儀今年六月製作專題《抑鬱教師》,探討教師壓力來源,並揭示教師患抑鬱症比率,比一般香港人高。
有關專題獲得「亞太廣播聯盟」電台新聞節目大獎,日前在北京頒發獎項。

新聞天地重溫得獎節目:《抑鬱教師》,由鍾慧儀報道。
Realplayer version - Window Media Player version

(Source: http://www.rthk.org.hk/rthk/news/cncahktoday/index_news.htm)

Monday, November 06, 2006

Thursday, November 02, 2006

The Last Kiss

"What you feel only matters to you, it's what you do to the people you love that counts."

http://www.apple.com/trailers/dreamworks/thelastkiss/

Saturday, October 28, 2006

感覺、顏色、氣味



很抗拒Twins,對《一碌蔗》從來未感興趣。但CY誠意推薦此電影,說跟我們現在一個研究有些關連,亦把DVD借了給我。DVD在案頭放了良久,後來想這怎麼說也算是老闆的指示,我便乖乖地看了。:)

我不像好友E有一列最愛電影清單。但如果有的話,《一碌蔗》很可能會名列其中。後來知道《一碌蔗》原來是葉錦鴻編劇及導演。我亦很喜歡他之前兩部電影《半支煙》和《薰衣草》。他的電影很會營造感覺。但我認為他比王家衛高明。他營造和傳遞的是一種每一個人都曾體驗而能在電影裏重新體會的感覺。觀衆是多元化的,要營造大家都能體會的感覺,是技巧也是堅持。

(如果你還未看過《一碌蔗》,我建議你不要再讀下去)

《一碌蔗》的故事發生在70年代,電影營造了一種單純的感覺,是屬於那一個年代社會單純的感覺。當電話還未流行,靠筆墨談情,兩人的距離這麼遠卻是那麼近;當娛樂消遣還未複雜,生活圍繞一家電影院或一家武館,生命卻是由衷地受影響而變化。電影製作很有心思,一些細節如背小孩用的布帶、班馬牌木管原子筆、舊式士多和轉盤電話等都不著跡地提示那一個年代。很細膩,很可愛。

故事主線是四位少年的初戀。他們各自都有戲劇性的背景﹣﹣﹣﹣是真的「戲劇性」,因為都是老電影情節的「復刻版」。例如余文樂演的阿凡有一個殺父仇人,鍾欣桐的角色是一個嬰孩時被遺棄到寺院與世隔絕的少女。他們的初戀始於一次邂逅一個眼神一個背影,然後是一連串以電影情節編寫成的情書。兩段感情各有不同的起點、發展和結局,但都描寫出初戀既甜蜜單純,也迷惘無奈。

但我覺得初戀大抵只是《一碌蔗》的表面,底蘊卻是一種孤獨的失落(Incompleteness)。看罷心裏許久也不能放下。由《半支煙》裡的曾志偉和謝霆鋒,《薰衣草》的陳慧琳,到《一碌蔗》的余文樂。他們每一個人的生命都有一種缺失。余文樂的角色在殺父仇人的陰影活了二十年,最後以在仇人喪禮中的一場淚作結,卻不見得是完全的解脫。初戀情人一走了之或許是要完成這個角色的「戲劇性」,亦為整部電影增加了沈鬱的感覺。主角沒有因而歇斯底里,只是淡淡地承受。而這種缺失往往是非常孤獨的體會。雖然大部份人的經驗也相似,但也許沒有一個人能夠徹底明白另一個人。

但導演卻不是完全的悲觀。過幾部電影的主角身邊總有開心果,成為主角生命中的重要支持。而且電影的結局總是讓主角和觀眾有一點點欣慰。還記得陳慧琳在《薰衣草》最後的一個夢一場淚,還有《半支煙》裡舒淇美麗地出現。導演或許未致於完全被失落掩蓋,也可能不想要觀眾過份傷感。

Tuesday, October 24, 2006

Real Frustration

Speechless. Frustrated. Helpless.

I have been programming a new experiment using the latest version of a computer program. The latest version was out only very recently. What one would expect is the unaviodable errors. But the error i encountered today is really frustrating.

After weeks of programming and experimenter-training, i finally started data collection today. The major part of this study is "serial reproduction" procedure. In a nutshell, participants read about some people then write their impression about these people. Then, what they wrote will be read by another participant, who will write about this impression. This reproduction goes on for a few rounds. With this procedure, we will be able to observe how information is actually modified through communication. I use the computer program to record all the writings.

The specific experimental procedure requires two undergrad experimenters dealing one participant at a time at 20-min intervals. That means, with the work of two experimenters, we are able to collect 3 data points in an hour. Not to mention the set up time. Because of time constraint, i can only have 8 data point collected each day. You can see how "desperate" I am.

Here comes the ever-true Murphy's Law

After hours of experiment sessions, i opened one of the data files, which is supposed to contain the writing and responses to other questions. Your guess is correct! There is no writing recorded in the data file!! I opened another data file, there is no writing there neither. None of the datafiles has the writing part in it.

I know, that's my fault. I had a number of trial runs before. They were fine. Just two days ago i decided to use another function that times the writing better. Who would know that by checking a little box in addition to "what is already okay" would make it "not okay"? There is something wrong with the function--checking the function refrains recording of response. Even though the function has nothing to do with data recording. That's my fault: i take for granted that things will operate the way it is supposed to.

My students were frustrated. I was not, at least at that time. I know Murphy's Law. I knew that something will go wrong. My experience of conducting experiments always have something wrong. I actually comforted my students that these are normal. But now, after a few hours, when i am trying to fix the problem, i cannot help but feel the huge frustration inside.

On the other hand, my other boss just cannot let me have a break from her work. That's the difference between a boss and a grad student. When a boss has something emergent (a paper to revise and resubmit, an experiment to wrap up, or something about a conference), a boss can always slack off on other projects. A grad student just does not have anything qualified as emergent.

Monday, October 23, 2006

工作麻醉

原來工作真的可以麻醉神經。如果思緒不定,甚至是為明日以致將來憂慮,全心投入做一件能集中精神的事原來可以令頭腦不用埋在煩惱中。事後至少有一點兒滿足感,把憂鬱的情緒壓下去。

當然,在消沉時抖擻精神工作是一項極大的挑戰。今天呆了一整天到晚上9.30才開始工作。很久也沒有那樣消沉了。

Saturday, October 21, 2006

The Notebook

A really beautiful movie. A touching love story.

























(Source: http://www.thenotebookmovie.com/)

Saturday, October 14, 2006

三個月沒有寫blog


一個月在香港
兩個月在香萍

所見所聞所愛所恨
想記的想說的
都因累積太久而不知從何說起

只盼望所愛的人快樂


Friday, July 14, 2006

A Certain Step into Uncertainty

I have made up my mind. And i told Sharon my decision today. She will tell Bill soon.

What would happen next? I don't know.
Will i regret it? I don't know.

Thursday, July 13, 2006

The Quest of Unification

Just watched a tv program about physics. It talks about how theoretical physics pursue the unified theory of universe--the unification of general relativity and quantum mechanics. Of course, i don't understand much. I guess i only get 10% of the contents and I was totally lost when it gets to string theories.

But i was attracted by the main theme: they quest of unification. It started with the theory of gravity unified explanation of planet orbit and gravitation on Earth, which later became general relativity. Then, the theory of electromagnetism unified explanations of phenomena related to electricity and magnetisim. Then comes quantum mechanics--the theory of matters that deeply based on probability rather than "universal law". Yet, physics is still in the quest of unifying all these theories, hoping to come up with simple elegant theories to "understand the universe at all levels".

Perhaps the quest of unification is a common disease among scientists, an pathetic obsession of distilling the world into simple theories.

I am afraid that i have also contracted the disease.

i constantly realize that i am just a simple-minded person, who urges to simplify the world to make it manageable. Isn't it so true? Life could be condensed into a few simple rules that transcend time and space. "To love and be loved" is the #1 and "Follow your heart" seems getting #2. Same for my motivation to research. i wish that by focusing my efforts on research, my world would become manageable, getting rid of the crazy, complicated, fuzzy things going on. That's my quest of unification




Wednesday, July 12, 2006

The trip to Phuket













Elaine and I have been planning a trip to Phuket when i go back. She persuaded me to finish the summer paper earlier (and risk upsetting the department for leaving early). Actually i really want to spend some time with her under the sunshine on the beach. Afterall, she has only 1 week of holiday every year.

So, we paid the money to join a guided tour. I was going to step on the plane in the afternoon of July 18th, hours after i landed on Hong Kong.

But. There is always a BUT. The travel agent changes the flight time to 8.00 in the morning! Even if my flight does not delay, i will only have half an hour to check in and get on the plane. That means: IMPOSSIBLE! And the travel agent refuses to refund because they had never guaranteed flight time. So, jessie will take up my place.

I am very upset. i guess Elaine is very upset too. But i wish that they will have fun. Perhaps the good thing is i don't need to pack my bathing suit.

To introduce:
Elaine (right) is the 2nd, a kindergarten teacher
Fanky (left) is the 4th, working in HongKong Disneyland

Sunday, July 09, 2006

Cake Making #1







It was June 2nd, 2006. Koman came to my place to make chocolate cake and puff. Then, we made a party out of it so we made Greek salad, lasagna, and a smoked salmon quiche (Look at the table!). It was a lot of work but so much more fun. Koman and i are perfect partners!


















We watched Narnia after the dinner. I like the movie a lot!











May i introduce our handsome guests:


Back: Jacky, George
Front: David, Edwin

Tuesday, July 04, 2006

To Go?

Overwhelmingly, everybody advises me to follow my heart. I don't know whether it's because i am working on a lower level construal than they are, or because of the inevitable anxiety associatd with anticipation of change, i just feel reluctant to make the decision.

If i follow my heart, i should go for an environment where i can realize my beliefs and interests in research.

During the past few years in marketing, there were many times i asked myself "what's the point?" when i think of my research. Learning about how people think and act is my motivation to research. If my research should have any practical implications, i want them to be something for human well-being rather than enhancing marketing practice. Honestly, I felt uneasy when i put down "improve marketing practice" at the "research significance" item on the IRB form, even though nobody really cares about that item.

I could be making an unfair judgment about the marketing (esp. consumer behavior) discipline. I aware of that. But i was very frustrated when my performence evaluation reads "Recognizing your interest (in) social pyschological approaches to research, you should insure that you do not lose the marketing perspective and relevance to your research." Apparently i do not agree with that person on
what CB research should be.

Then, what is holding me back? The uncertainty about a completely different discipline is the #1 fear. Although i know many psychologists and i have been working with a number of them, i am still a stranger to the discipline. I just took an undergrad level introduction to social psychology class! There are practical issues too. I need to deal with the separation and the money matter. Perhaps, these are the costs of following the heart.




Saturday, July 01, 2006

To Go or Not to Go?

I finally got a chance to talk with CY about transfering to Social Psychology. The situation might not be that bad. I thought that i might need to add at least one more year if i switch, but in fact it is not necessary. If i work very hard and if publication record is not a concern (e.g., going back to Hong Kong for jobs), it is indeed possible to finish it within the four-year timeframe.

And the timing is good too. CY has not been recruiting students for three years and he is planning to get new student soon. Probably he will admit me if i apply.

But i really need to think about WHY? I cannot deny that part of the reason is my sentiment towards my department. The past year was full of dissapointing incidents. I do not agree with them on many of their perspectives. I do not even agree with them on their view of academia.

Change is not easy. I have been in business since my undergrad years. These six years, to an extent, have built up my instinct in this area. Am i be able to be a psychologist? Am i be able to take up psychology as major rather than a supporting area?

I am at a crossroad now. The status quo is always easy to maintain. But is it something i really want?


Friday, May 05, 2006

當心裡懷念一個人

會想起很多原來不起眼的小事
想起第一次一起做香蕉蛋糕
從微波爐裡把蛋糕端出來
表面是很成功
裡面卻未完好
將好的拿給我
卻把未好的留給自己
﹣﹣節儉不浪費的性格

後來我一個人
做過很多香蕉蛋糕
但已沒有機會
拿好的給你

你好嗎?

Stressful Week...













你的壓力程度:微高

測試一下你的壓力程度

對於一個終日忙於學習的人而言,這是一個中等程度的壓力。因此,如何合理緩和壓力是值得你探討。

三大心理學節網站提供

Monday, April 24, 2006

Sunday, April 23, 2006

小兔子情意結


小白兔 小白兔 樣子妙
又長又尖一雙耳朵
好像個 V 字向天張開
小小的兔子多可愛趣緻








突然想起一首上幼兒園時學的歌
頓時明白為何鍾愛小兔子

Friday, April 14, 2006

Good Friday

This is my first time going to a Good Friday Service. I must admit that i have never given enough thoughts to the death of Jesus. The whole idea seems too dramatic to be true. But if one really think about what had happened to Jesus, within the 24 hours 1976 years ago. It is too much to be ignored.

When the Good Friday Service ended with a symbolic seal of the tomb of Jesus--in complete salience and darkness--my heart was completely absorbed in fear and sadness. Jesus was in the tomb-it was the end of pain, insult, and evil. But it also seemed to be the end all hope, truth, and love.


I long for the resurrection of Jesus.

+~+~+~+~+~+~+~+~+~+~+~+~+~+~+~+~+~+~
A song that lingers on my mind...

~愛 我願意~
十字架上的光芒 溫柔又慈祥
帶著主愛的力量 向著我照亮
我的心不再隱藏 完全地擺上
願主愛來澆灌我
在愛中得自由釋放

我願意降服 我願意降服
在那愛的懷抱中 我願意降服
你是我的主 你是我的主
永遠在你懷抱中
你是我 你是我的主

[讚美之泉~彩虹下的約定]

Thursday, April 13, 2006

Wednesday, April 12, 2006

天晴 但心情...

很想家 很想
待在這邊 什麼也不想

彷彷彿彿
想做的不想做
每一秒
家更近 期限更近

心情 壞

很想
什麼也不想

Monday, April 03, 2006

昨日

把昨日的 從盒子裡拿出來
好好的看一遍
仍然有很多
顔色氣味 所到之處 見過的人
過了四百天 仍然生動
記億中仍懚約有不明所以
盒子裡的昨日

Sunday, March 26, 2006

Law Pak Go Party

Seven lovely boys and girls come over for law pak go, which is made of:

- two strange looking law pak: a long & extra thin one from Meijer + a short & extra fat one from Amko
- a handful of dried shrimp and some extra fat "lap" meat from Far East
- several shitaki mushrooms and one "lap" sausage from "Parkn'Shop", Chicago
- several dried scallops from Mom's kitchen, Hong Kong


Well, after several practice trials (persistence, again!)... the final product is...



quite satisfactory :D


Some may even fight for it...









Um... YES, IT IS A LIE... They were actually fighting for "Margarita" from "Jupiter"...






delicious thin-crust pizza that could feed my boys & girls up




Finally, Jacky made us some Pineapple punch. And we finish up some HK styple sago dessert (yeung chi kam lo). This was another mission impossible from mom. Knowing that my friends will come over for law pak go, she requested me to make this special dessert from them.


Jacky & the pineapple punch were really "cute" and sweet.







Jessica seemed very delighted by the sago dessert!







Overall: The party was a wonderful end of my first Spring break here. It was really
happy to have a bunch of great friends sharing food and just making some noise! After leaving G19 (my old office in CUHK), i seldom have chance to "entertain" a lovely crowd. The party was really enjoyable!

Saturday, March 25, 2006

Spring Break @ Chicago

Thanks Jacky for making this trip possible.

9am. Raw egg. Mandarin speaking. Danger of pure water. China Town. Hong-Kong-style dim sum. BBM. Christian book store. Driving Rabbit. Oversized jacket. Navy Pier. Windy. Observation wheel. Navy hats. Beer mug and fridge magnets. Distortion and reflection. Glass museum. Really windy. 350D and light tower. Mary Kay. Two unfortunate pennies. Jazz. "My Sassy Girlfriend". High school kids who were very high. Indian. Jazz. Walgreens. Japanese cartoon. Faye Wong. 2:30am!
~Summary by Edwin!















Tuesday, March 21, 2006